Communication Course

Repairing the relationship through proper Communication

Modules

MODULE 1: Initial Assessment

Understanding the Core Issue:

What do you think is the root cause of our conflict?

How do you feel when we discuss this issue?

What specific actions or behaviors have contributed to the problem?

What do you think I am misunderstanding about you?

MODULE 2 Teach Listening Skills

HOW TO LISTEN- So they can talk

1. Active Listening Exercise

Purpose: Encourage better understanding and empathy.

How to do it:

One partner speaks for 3-5 minutes about their feelings or perspective on an issue, while the other partner listens without interrupting.

After the speaker finishes, the listener reflects back what they heard using phrases like: “What I heard you say is…” or “It sounds like you’re feeling…”

The speaker then confirms if the listener understood correctly or offers clarification if needed.

Switch roles after each turn.

Benefit: This exercise helps each partner feel heard and understood, fostering a deeper emotional connection.

MODULE 3: Teach Speaking Skills

HOW TO TALK- So they can listen

"I Feel" Statements

Purpose: Promote non-blaming, constructive communication.

How to do it:

When addressing an issue, use "I feel" statements rather than "You always" or "You never" to avoid sounding accusatory.

For example: “I feel frustrated when we don’t communicate clearly about our plans” vs. “You never listen to me.”

This shifts the focus to the speaker’s emotions and avoids putting the other person on the defensive.

Benefit: Using "I feel" statements minimizes defensiveness and creates a space for vulnerability and understanding.

MODULE 4: Communicating about the tough topics

MODULE 5: Communicate about beliefs & values

Transition from just errand talk to connecting on a deep emotional level

MODULE 6: Expressing Needs and Concerns


What do you need most from me right now?

How can I make you feel more supported and valued?

What are your biggest fears about our relationship?

What are some things I do that hurt you, even if unintentionally?

MODULE 7: Fostering Intimate Connection

Can you help me understand your perspective better?
What do you think I’m struggling with in this situation?
What do you miss about our relationship when it was at its best?
What makes you feel loved and appreciated?

MODULE 8: Assess your progress weekly

• Emotional Check-In Questions
  Remember, progress takes time. Stay patient with yourselves and each other as you work through these exercises. Celebrate small victories and keep communication open.
  Ask each other these questions once a week:
  
  What has been the best part of your week?
  
  Is there anything you’ve been feeling stressed about?
  
  How can I support you better?