The Fulfilled Single
What To Do While Single
PREMARITAL
Lloyd Allen
12/29/20245 min read
Enjoy being single
Filling your life with things you actually enjoy.
Be engaged in doing what you’re good at. Be in love with your own thoughts. That will help you in working on becoming the best version of yourself.
Don't put your happiness in another person, else you’ll become a slave to that relationship. The greatest gift a man can give their child is the love and support their mother Be a single person a man needs, not a single person that needs a man. Make yourself irresistible. (PiES) See your singleness, not as a marital status, but as independently owned and operated. See your singleness as a gift. Enjoy it. You don’t know when you’ll have to give it away. Finding yourself and learning yourself. See yourself as valuable, before you can start treating another person as valuable Date yourself What you like, what you don’t like. The woman that gets a man’s attention is not the woman who is out looking for a man, but the woman who is busy building her own empire, who is busy becoming her best self, and creating the best version of herself(Then your standard shyrocket). Investing in your wildest dreams, not in manifesting a man. When you’ve reached the stage when you’re creating so much love and abundance in your daily life, you wake up everyday looking forward to it. Remember, a relationship is meant to enhance your life, not to complete it. How to become the man every good woman is chasing: 1. Stop looking for a woman and start focusing on becoming the best man 2. Date yourself: Enjoy your own company and allow your thoughts to become your best friend. Find peace within your own heart. (Godliness with contentment) (Void of offense towards God & man) 3. Be committed to personal growth and development - read the right books - Do what you really enjoy ( Ensure it aligns with God’s will) Then you’ll become the man every good woman wants. 4. start investing in your wildest dreams and cease waiting for a woman(man) to come and rescue you ————————————————- 3 tips in summary B. Be content in who you are as a single person ( Enjoy your thoughts & your own company). Read good books, pray, Discover your strengths. Become the best man/ woman. Be committed to personal growth & development. A. Start investing in your wildest dreams (Do) Discover your purpose in God. 1 Corinthians 7:32,33 You have time John 18:37 Purpose of Jesus C. Date yourself ( Enjoy your life). Enjoy your own company and allow your thoughts to become your best friend. Find peace within your own heart. (Godliness with contentment) (Void of offense towards God & man) Take trips away. Etc. See your singleness as a gift. Enjoy it. You don’t know when you’ll have to give it away. Are you chaseABLE? A word to the singles. Janelle
Singleness: Topics: 1. What to do while single 2. Did you know singleness is a gift? Work on this singular goal. This is what really fulfills you: Love and be loved Date yourself Avoid sexual pitfalls Stop obsessing about marriage Maximize your singleness -work on your wildest dreams Form a healthy network of family, friends or both.
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Preserving singleness while embracing its unique season can be a meaningful journey for personal growth, spiritual maturity, and purpose. Here's how singles can navigate and preserve their singleness with biblical insights and practical steps:
Biblical Insights
Embrace Singleness as a Gift
Biblical Basis: Paul refers to singleness as a gift in 1 Corinthians 7:7:
“I wish that all of you were as I am. But each of you has your own gift from God; one has this gift, another has that.”Reflection: Singleness offers a unique opportunity to focus wholly on God without the responsibilities of a spouse or family.
Prioritize Your Relationship with God
Biblical Basis: Matthew 6:33 encourages us to seek first God’s kingdom:
“But seek first his kingdom and his righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well.”Reflection: Use this season to deepen your relationship with Christ and grow in spiritual maturity.
Pursue Holiness and Contentment
Biblical Basis: 1 Thessalonians 4:3-4 calls us to live sanctified lives:
“It is God’s will that you should be sanctified: that you should avoid sexual immorality; that each of you should learn to control your own body in a way that is holy and honorable.”Reflection: Cultivate a heart of contentment and guard against distractions that compromise your purity or purpose.
Practical Tips
Set Boundaries in Relationships
Why: Healthy boundaries protect your emotional and spiritual health.
How: Avoid situations that lead to compromising your values. Be transparent about your intentions and expectations in friendships.
Develop Your Purpose and Passions
Why: This is a season to explore your calling and develop skills.
How: Volunteer in ministries, pursue personal goals, and invest in hobbies or talents that align with God’s purpose for your life.
Build a Supportive Community
Why: Surrounding yourself with like-minded believers provides accountability and encouragement.
How: Join small groups, serve in your church, or participate in events that foster meaningful connections.
Cultivate Healthy Habits
Why: Good physical, mental, and emotional health lays a strong foundation for the future.
How: Exercise regularly, maintain a consistent prayer and Bible study routine, and seek professional or pastoral guidance when needed.
Stay Content and Patient
Why: Contentment helps you appreciate the present while trusting God for the future.
How: Practice gratitude daily, remind yourself of God’s promises, and avoid comparing your journey to others.
Avoid Idleness
Why: Idleness can lead to unhealthy distractions and dissatisfaction.
How: Stay engaged in purposeful activities like serving others, furthering your education, or pursuing career goals.
Final Encouragement
Romans 12:1-2 reminds us to offer our lives as living sacrifices to God and to renew our minds:
“Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God’s will is—his good, pleasing, and perfect will.”
Use this season of singleness to honor God, serve others, and prepare your heart for whatever He has planned for you. Your singleness is not a waiting period; it’s a purposeful chapter full of potential.
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Preserving singleness until marriage involves setting boundaries, maintaining focus on personal growth, and aligning with personal values and goals. Here are some practical suggestions:
1. Define Your Values and Goals
Reflect on your personal beliefs and values about relationships and marriage.
Set clear boundaries that align with your long-term goals.
2. Establish Healthy Boundaries
Communicate openly with others about your intentions and limits.
Avoid situations or environments that may challenge your commitment to remaining single until marriage.
3. Focus on Personal Growth
Develop your emotional, mental, spiritual, and physical well-being.
Pursue hobbies, education, and activities that enrich your life and prepare you for a future partnership.
4. Build a Support System
Surround yourself with friends, mentors, and communities that encourage and respect your choices.
Stay accountable by discussing your intentions with trusted individuals.
5. Avoid Pressures and Comparisons
Resist societal or peer pressure to enter a relationship prematurely.
Focus on your unique journey without comparing it to others.
6. Strengthen Your Faith or Spiritual Practices (if applicable)
Engage in prayer, meditation, or other spiritual practices that reinforce your commitment.
Seek guidance from spiritual or religious mentors.
7. Be Mindful About Dating
Date with intention rather than out of convenience or pressure.
Only pursue relationships that align with your values and your vision for marriage.
8. Invest in Friendships
Cultivate meaningful, non-romantic relationships that bring joy and companionship.
Enjoy the freedom to explore and deepen connections with others without romantic implications.
Staying single until marriage is a personal journey. It’s essential to approach it with intentionality, self-awareness, and confidence in your decision.